Sales manager Sharon Bukokhe, of Levenshulme, Manchester, was a high
achiever working for a family planning charity but felt lonely because
relatives including her husband lived abroad. Mrs Bukokhe, who was originally from Kenya, used her laptop to
research ways to commit suicide, applied full make up and painted her
nails then suffocated herself at her flat in April.
A diary found after her death said: ‘I think that any life is as
valid as the next, such that an ending of 25 is as good as 88. I have no
real regrets or fears any more, I just feel decisive and justified.’ Mrs Bukokhe, who appeared to friends to be ‘the happiest person in
the world’, settled in the UK in 2002 and graduated in design and
engineering at Nottingham Trent University, the inquest heard.
People need to understand that your life is not your own, you didn't create it, God did. So you have no right to take what does not belong to you. Also, suicide is a very selfish and cowardly act. How sad. Pls continue to read after the cut...
She was later appointed sales manager of a charity helping with
family planning issues involving third world countries. But Mrs Bukokhe
was deeply affected by her family living in other countries.
Her husband lived in South Africa so he could complete a Master’s
Degree whilst her mother lived in Richmond, Virginia, in the US, and her
sister lived in Canada.
Her only relative in Britain was her brother who lived 250 miles away
in Gillingham, Kent and as a result of her feelings of loneliness she
was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Mrs Bukokhe’s sister Caroline Lusiche, who flew in from Canada to be
at the inquest in Manchester said: ‘There were many factors which led to
it.
‘She was a high achiever, her marriage was also a big factor. She
wanted it to succeed but he was in South Africa doing his masters. She
moved and they decided to put that marriage on hold. ‘She had come here as a very young girl and it really affected her
that we were all dispersed in different countries. In the last few days
we had been trying to get back in touch with each other. ‘But because of the time difference- me in Canada – we kept missing
each other. I sent her an email and did not hear back then I heard.
‘She was trying to be the one to bring the family together, she had a
lot on her shoulders weighing on her. She had high objectives we were
taught to hold our chin up and get on with it.
So sad. RIP beautiful woman.
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