This is a very sad mail from a
lady whose husband abused her till she died of cancer a few days ago. While on
her death bed, she wrote him a letter, to be published after her death. This will definitely bring tears to your eyes. Read her touching letter below;
''I bid you
farewell…………………………………………..
I am grateful to God that I will
rest in His bosom and I am more grateful because I have always wanted this
opportunity to speak my mind even unto death. I guess you are surprised that
even the dead can air an opinion; in my case I really wanted to because I knew
that God was preparing a place for me and that is where I will be. Do not weep for so long because I found
eternal peace in Him. The very peace that has eroded me in about twelve years
of my God given years (at the time of this writing I am forty-one years of age
and I have been married for twelve years). This is my story...
I am Yetunde nee Olotu as I am
fondly called by my immediate family in Nigeria but here I am being referred to
as Omodolapo Jagha as named by the love of my life. Now, I
am Dolapo GoodGod , the surname I adopted when I realized that I no
longer have a husband who will be there for me. The very man I should expect to
be the Master of ceremony at my burial, the man you think would miss my departure
the most but unfortunately not. I believe my estranged husband is glad that he
is now free from the bondage called marriage.
Noble Jagha, I hope you feel so
happy now that your prophesy to Maryam Hassan and other girlfriends of yours
that I will soon die so you can marry them is now fulfilled. The truth is that
my body may be dead but my hope of glory in heaven is constant as God lives. I
may not be here again but I am so sure you will never find anyone to love you
the way I did…… You were my first love, the very man who deflowered me but
turned his back on me years after that I was not good on bed (not sexy enough for you), I was not good at
cooking but I managed to learn and cook your local meal of Starch and Banga.
He
said, “I was so paranoid” because I complained that you are only comfortable
making phone calls in the car and returning home at midnight. You finally
abandoned me and the children in December, 2012 after all the mental and
physical abuse I suffered from you. You could not face the wrath of law as I
got a safety and protection order against you because I was afraid that you
would eventually take my life. While you lived with us, you were of no use, as
you were not readily available to do your matrimonial and fatherly duties.
How painful it was to take the twins to
school walking all the way from Ongar to Little Pace, sometimes after getting a
chemo. Even when I pleaded with you to look after the kids when I have
appointments at the hospital you refused. Thank God for the Irish government
(HSE) that provided me with home help (Margaret), my cousin, grandma Odelade, Sola and S. Bimbo (my wonderful sisters in
church), my friend, confidant
(Gbemi) who stuck to me like a
sister, she is known in all our kids’ school as their guardian because you were
not there. You found solace in your numerous, “your attraction” as you referred
to the choir leader and probably your new sizzling romance Sheila Luxembor whom
you kept my kids with without my consent. I hope she told you I rang her and made
peace with her when I did no wrong (Yeah, I did this to secure my heaven).
Hhhhmmmm……….the Lord is my
strength.
Oti, how do you feel after
physically and mentally tormenting me? You can now be happy that “the living
corpse” (as you often referred to me) in your home has finally gone to be with
God. You no longer have to hit me or pounce on me anymore. In death I have
forgiving you because I loved you but I hope you are able to forgive
yourself…….? I cannot forget in a minute how I felt so let down that I took to
my heels and sought refuge in that sister’s place and later on at the women’s
refuge. I am sure your defense is that I died as a cancer patient but I believe
I could live a day longer if you were there for me…… I went through the pains of Cancer lonely!
Rather than supporting, you rejected me. Isn’t marriage meant to be for better
or for worse.….? I hope when I remember how childish you were for taking the
boot you bought for me and returning the wrist watch I bought for you I can
peacefully sigh a relief for leaving this cruel world. You were so mean to me!
Oti, you were really mean to Emmanuella too. How could you ill-treat your own
children because they are girls? I have all the horrible text messages you sent
to me documented; psychologically you killed me before my death.
Pastor Jagha, a man of God! The
church has failed in their duty to help you from fallen, they have pampered you
for doing wrong in order to save their face and invariably they have failed me.
Church is meant for sinners irrespective of their position and as such no one
should be above chastising. I hope after my demise our father in the Lord would
have enough evidence to correct the wrong of my beloved husband. No wonder my
so-called husband was able to trick the church who also lured me to take off
the safety and protection order and stop me from getting a separation that I so
long for. On my dying bed I made copies of telephone bills showing his immoral
communication with a worker in the church
at Athlone but there was still no sufficient evidence………
The church that
should be a place of refuge became a place of torment for me. I hope you can
also enjoy your new relationship with Sheila, I learnt you told some of your
church members that I asked her to look after my kids because I was sick in the
hospital whereas she keeps malice with
me just because of your sex romp with her. Oti, you left my children at home
for two days and went to sleep with your girl friend in Athlone. You also asked
my under-aged children to travel on bus to Athlone by themselves while I was on
the hospital bed. I loved you but you failed me and you know it.
The bitter pill that I have to
swallow is the fact that I can no longer be there for my lovely girls .Their
beloved father despised them so because I could not make a male child (you
claimed that I was unable to have a boy child because I did not drink from the
anointing oil which you asked me to drink and that makes you detest me too). I
am deeply sorry that I did not drink it; maybe that would have spared me of
some lashes. Our lovely first daughter
at age twelve said, “Mummy I don’t think I will get married” This is as a
result of the abuse that my child suffered from our marriage… If you are a
loved one and you know my daughter, please help me say to her that marriage is
to be enjoyed and not endured….. I want her to be married and make me proud!
Oti, why do you always run away
from your problems rather than resolving them?
You left Nigeria because of your involvement in fraud at the bank which
you never resolved. As I speak you owe
my mother a sum of one million, two hundred thousand naira which you have no
plan to repay. How come you had issues
even with your own sibling in the U.K to such an extent that you poisoned
her…..? That is the more reason why I
was so scared for my life. You are such
a difficult person, the community welfare officer , our GP, Olive at Hartstown
, the Child protection unit at Finglas and our father in the Lord tried their
best to advise you to no avail. You were not ready to make me happy.
Noble Jagha, you wanted me dead
as soon as possible. I still wonder why
you refused to come with me for separation times and again when I asked that we
should part ways. I know your intent may be to make gains from my years of
labour at Anpost. I worked so hard to pay the rent, to feed us and even paid
some of your fees to pursue your MBA. Despite all my effort you were never
satisfied, even on my sick bed you demanded for money…..I hope you are happy
that you have them all and you can feed your numerous girlfriends with
them. I plead with you and I besiege all
that reads this to appeal to you that you do the following after my demise
which is of utmost importance (I hope you will heed advice for once).
1. That you may put in trust/fixed deposit
for my daughters all monies raised from my burial and benefits from my
workplace having paid all expenses incurred and other personal loan taking from
my friends during my period of illness. My daughters need to know I care for
them even in my grave.
2. That, I have a will in which I have named the
executors to my will and joint custodians of our children. The lawyer will keep
you posted in due course, please adhere!
3. Oti you can also pay any money that you
owe from the monies before the account is opened.
4. Kindly pay my mother the money you owe
her too before the account is fixed.
5. I want my mother to be a part of my
children’s life, please don’t deprive her.
6. Oti
make peace with my family and friends (stop making enemies out of the
people that helps me).
Oti, it may surprise you but I
have to let you know that I have the password to your facebook account and
email accounts! How come I am not on
your friend list? Why did you also refuse to tell me the cause of your mother’s
death? I know she died of cancer! Hmmmm
Oti does not love me; he could
not stay with me in sickness despite the fact that I loved him more than my
children. Hhmmmm
I hope my mother can forgive me
for not heeding her advice in respect of my choice of marriage and I pray that
God gives her and my father the fortitude to bear this irreparable lost. It is
too late to cry when the head is off.
Thank you for not leaving me
alone in my time of troubles and needs my sisters, thank you sister for going
to Olive’s school, please follow up with Emmanuel as planned, I don’t want my
children to suffer. I am so worried …..I am tired. I don’t want you people to
go, don’t leave me alone. I want someone to sleep here with me tonight.
Signed.
Omodolapo GoodGod
27/04/2013.
Hmmmm...no comment!Alphavee
ReplyDeleteMen!!! It is well.
ReplyDeleteReally sad indeed. RIP
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