DO I STILL MARRY HIM EVEN THOUGH HE CHEATED ON ME AND NOW HAS A CHILD

Dear RDB readers,

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have known each other for 8 years. Through the 5 years we have been together we have had many ups and downs and trying times. He works construction so many times he’s without a job and I have a full-time job and I recently graduated with my first degree. Before I graduated he always made comments that he thought I was going to leave him when I found a job with my degree and I constantly told him no.

One day I came home and he told me he had something serious to talk about. I thought he was going to ask me to marry him. Boy was I wrong.

 

He told me that he had cheated on me months ago and was recently contacted and told that he had a baby that had just been born. He said it was a one night stand and it meant nothing to him. Now the chick went the whole pregnancy and hadn’t contacted him. She didn’t even have his number. He had blocked her after he cheated on me. He says he did it because he knew he was wrong. The chick contacted his mother on a social network. After the paternity test was done, it was found out the baby was his. I told him people make mistakes and I would stay with him. Before we found out about this baby everything was changing for us. We were in a good place. But now it’s weird because he really did cheat on me and now there is physical proof. Every time I look at this child it’s proof he cheated on me.

How can we start our own family when he made a family with some random girl? He says he wants to marry me but how do I know this won’t happen again? His family, who loves me, told me if I left him they would still be there for me. They even offered me a place to stay to get my head together. I love this man but this was the ultimate betrayal.  Do I still go ahead and marry him or just call it quits?