DEAR RAQUEL: HE SAID HE DOESN'T BELIEVE IN LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS BUT DOESN'T WANT TO LEAVE EITHER

Dear Raquel,

I know I should walk away from the situation I’m in now, but I want the opinions of guys first.

I’ve been dating this guy for 3 years. He is 12-years older than me. He lives about 7 hours drive away from me. He has said to me maybe twice that he doesn’t believe in long distance relationships. Problem number one: Why are we in a relationship then if you don’t want a long distance relationship? I live 7 hours away but when I bring it up and ask him what he wants… he says he doesn’t want to leave. I’m thinking then why did you say that then.

Then another problem within the last month or two is that he says I call him too much. Really? I call him maybe twice a week. That’s to just say hey or tell him what’s been happening and see what he is up to. Then he said, 'I don’t want you to have a big phone bill.'  First off, if you were so worried then be willing to put something on it. Secondly, my phone bill is the same every freaking month. But, of course he wouldn’t shut up long enough to listen. By the time he's done I was like I don’t even want to talk to you right now and hung up.

We have a lot of fun times but those last like three convos, really I'm like should I just leave now or see how it plays out. Yeah, I might be sad for a bit to leave but it feels like at times I’m just waiting for him to say it’s done but he won’t. What do I do?

 Long Distance Lover